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On Growing Up..


Calvin and Hobbes cartoon

There is this seemingly innocent question which has popped up in my mind:

“At what time and age do we feel all grown up and without temptation?!”

I mean, all care and caution is abandoned in the heady enthusiasm of youth. I get that.. But do we really grow up and lose that thrill of risk and adventure. Do we grow up and become model citizens and parents and hmm..well.. Grown ups!

Who knows ? Sometimes it might feel that we’ve never grown up. Or never will. There are moments when you want to slip back into the stage of life when you do everything as you wished to. To live your life without any fear. To have to answer to no one.. To be free of all the cares and responsibilities which being a grown up brings..

But then, these are ephemeral wants.

Because in the end, we wish to be tied up by our relationships. We desire to be wanted, loved and cared. We secretly hope things fall apart when we’re not around, so that we’re missed. We want someone to fall back on us.

Otherwise if I were a free bird, and no one’s life depended on me then I imagine I’d feel far worse  – thinking that I have wasted my life!

Yes. How paradoxical are these things we want. Sometimes our wishes attempt to set us free, and other times they only serve to bind us in the most irreversible ways. We are so utterly conflicted – but frankly its a bit too difficult to decide. Maybe because we are selfish and want a bit of both.

Perhaps that is what Growing Up is all about – knowing about your conflicts and developing defense mechanisms to survive them with minimum collateral damage.

What do you think?

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A Hundred Year Plan


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A hundred years from now,
What would I be?

A whiff of wind blowing through someone’s hair
Or a tiny drop of tear tricking down a cheek
A speck of sand kissing wild waves of the sea
The bright red paint on a playground’s swing
A hundred years from now, in divine merriment
Returned to Earth, element for element..

A hundred years from now,
Where would I be?

Stored as digital crumbs in dusty archives
Faded photographs in an ancient album
Fragments in a distant stranger’s mind
The sliver of an idea fueling someone’s existence
A permutation of DNA that signifies an identity
Or trapped in some words written by me?

A hundred years from now,
Why should I care ?

So affected by daily intoxications
And captured in the shards of time..
Consumed in yesterdays and tomorrows
Powerless before unknown powers and designs..
A hundred years from now might be a good plan
To face Destiny – Man to Man!

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Going with the Flow..


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Everywhere you go, you see people ..and places.. Houses and roads and means of transportation. People going somewhere. Everyone trying to be someplace else, different from where they are now..

And that’s how life is in every part of the world. Everyone trying to do something. Reach someplace where they are not right now..on a constant journey. Which is what makes the wheels turn and our blood flow. Or whatever is the term for making things seem normal and routine..

And the moment you wake up somewhere someday with no place you feel inspired enough to go – life comes to a whirring uncomfortable halt. If you do not have any purpose for yourself – however mundane and insignificant it might be, then there is this evil question which creeps up – Am I doing anything worthwhile at all?

And a gnawing question this is – which follows you around like a hungry puppy and bites you in the hand when you try to feed it with inconsequential answers.

So what can you do to tame this ugly thought?

Go with the flow. Do something that makes sense in that moment. Follow a trail – or create a new one.

Because a river is always more interesting than a pond. New experiences always enrich your life’s perspective and because .. “A bend in the road is not the end of the road…Unless you fail to make the turn.”!

Image Credits: http://ohksocial.com/small-business-growth-go-with-the-flow/

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Say it out Loud


I know the feeling. You have something terribly important to say. And you’ve played it back and forth in your head. But when the moment comes for you to speak it out loud – you freeze. Words come out as garbled bits of incoherent sentences which don’t articulate your thoughts well. You are dismayed by the way they sound, all sad and sorry.

Then it happens. Your confidence takes a precipitous fall.

You end up feeling all disgruntled and disappointed in yourself . As if a part of you has failed. Then come the questions and self doubt rushing in as air rushes in to suck up a void.

Does that sound familiar to you?

Yes. Failure is familiar. So is Misspoken sentences. Inarticulate thoughts . Lost opportunities .

But you know what it really means?..

Playing it in your head is just not enough.

You have to go out there and let your idea grow. Say it out loud to yourself. Feel the power of your words to change the world – or at least your own. You have to let your words be comfortable in their own skin.

If you have something important to say – don’t wait to say it till the last moment. Say it out loud to yourself – right now!

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Less is More


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Its a greedy world out there. Unimaginable data being accumulated every second.

And so much information thrown at us – it’s like being drenched with a fire hose.

So like intelligent evolving creatures, we are slowly programming ourselves to consume and digest the tiniest nuggets of useful stuff.

Long winded stories are out. 140 character tweets are in.
Complex is no longer cool. Simplicity is the new sophistication. Less is More.

So does that bother you ? Well yes, it might. Because simple is so much more difficult to do!

You can no longer hide behind words. Or befuddle with ambiguity .
Simplicity demands clarity of thought , and that’s pretty tough to get without skill or practice.

Ok then buddy. What’s the ideal modus operandi ?

Well – one obvious answer is , you gotta be good at what you do.

And even when you are , stifle your instincts to unleash your infinite knowledge and enthusiasm on your audience.

Just answer the question or solve the problem at hand. Don’t try to do more.

As William Blake gently put it – “The road of excess leads to the palace of wisdom.” And we don’t want to be too wise too early, do we? 😛

Image Credits: http://dilbert.com/strips/comic/2003-11-22/

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Idea #8: Bird by Bird


Bird by Bird

So.. What do you do when you get stuck?

 Do you sit back and mourn your lack of action ..Think of inventive ways to over come your situation?. Or Just wait – thinking that this too shall pass!.

 We all have our own solutions to  dealing  with stuck moments. Some would slow down, blow off some steam.. or if you’re like me, you would go off to sleep!.

And then .. What do you do?

You DON’T give up!.

You come back to the table .. Pore over your shitty first drafts.. Move ahead bit by bit..

Because big changes don’t happen in a instant. Corporations are not successful overnight. Trust is not built in a day. It’s a gradual process. The only difference is that you notice it suddenly.. And people start talking about it suddenly..

In this age of instant gratification, it is easy to think that you will get results immediately. And also get frustrated when you don’t.

Like Alice in Wonderland, we cant wait to reap the benefits of our efforts – “No, no! The adventures first, explanations take such a dreadful time.” !!

But in real world, you have to take it step by step.. Bird by bird ..A metaphor used by  Anne Lamott. She narrates this beautiful story in her book:

“Thirty years ago my older brother, who was ten years old at the time, was trying to get a report on birds written that he’d had three months to write. It was due the next day. We were out at our family cabin in Bolinas, and he was at the kitchen table close to tears, surrounded by binder paper and pencils and unopened books on birds, immobilized by the hugeness of the task ahead. Then my father sat down beside him, put his arm around my brother’s shoulder, and said, ‘Bird by bird, buddy. Just take it bird by bird.’

Then again. What do you do when you get stuck?

You come back. Pick up all the fragments piece by piece. Slowly build it again – bird by bird!

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Idea #6: Pause, but don’t Stop!


Pause if you must, but don't stop

 

  • Because you will come across events beyond your control that change the course of your life . Things happen, and life suddenly spirals out of control. So knowing that you can take a pause and continue later helps you reaffirm your faith and confidence in yourself. You can focus on other things that come up in priority.

 

  • Because everything you have done before matters.  The things you have learnt, the people you met, the experiences you’ve had. All of them count towards making you who you are. And stopping after failure is equivalent to throwing it all away. So don’t give up. Count your cards.. sum up your losses and move on!

 

  • Because taking a pause is sometimes great strategy. It’s gives you time to reassess your coordinates and  plan alternate strategies for attack . And “Although no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.” ― Carl Bard

 

  • Because time changes us – not in a weird mysterious way, but in a very gradual matter of fact way. And taking a pause will let you assimilate the changes in yourself and help you understand who you really are. What do you really want ?

 

OK. You might be wondering why do all my sentences begin with the grammatically awkward and inappropriate ‘Because’?..

Because, that’s how you can start again after taking a pause 🙂